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Buttonholes and Corsages

In the past, buttonholes symbolized good luck and divine love, especially red ones that were the masculine symbol of love. Grooms wore them at their wedding to signify that they were bound with the promise to marry.

Traditionally the groom, best man, fathers of the bride and groom and ushers should all wear buttonholes. These are made up of a single flower and a piece of foliage, worn in their left lapel. Other honoured guests such as uncles, grandparents and close friends of the bridal couple may also wear buttonholes. Generally, it is safe to choose buttonholes that are of the same variety of flower or colour as the bride’s bouquet.

Some couples choose to provide all their guests with a buttonhole each. The most popular choices of flowers for buttonholes are carnations and roses. The stem is fitted through the buttonhole on the left lapel and fixed into place with a pin at the back and is positioned upright. To avoid any sign of the pin, simply thread it through one thickness only of the lapel material.

Corsages are a slightly larger version of a buttonhole, which are made up of the same flowers as those in the bride’s bouquet, and should be worn on the left lapel. They are made up of two or three flowers, along with some foliage. The mothers of the couple will wear corsages, and so too may the grandmothers. If you would like to give other family members something to wear, you could give them a double buttonhole made up of two blooms. This will give them significance during the wedding, and can be used for family members such as sisters.

It is important to make sure that the corsages match the women’s outfits, so you should find out the colours of their outfits before ordering the corsages to avoid any colour clashes. Popular choices for corsages include carnation, orchid, rose, stephanotis and freesia. Buttonholes and corsages should be attached once you arrive at the wedding, to avoid the possibility of seatbelts ruining them during the journey to the wedding ceremony.

A corsage or buttonhole is a nice token of thanks and appreciation for other people who participate in your wedding day, such as those who give readings or sing during the ceremony. Some brides like to order matching corsage to wear with their going away outfit.

As an alternative for hay fever sufferers, a dried or silk arrangement could be made in similar colours and styles to the fresh ones.

Floral Headdresses And Hair Accessories

The florist will be able to offer you advice about the best flowers to use for hair accessories, which will last the whole day without wilting. Flowers and foliage can be threaded into long hair or secured to a shorter hairstyle with combs. There are several different styles which can be used to make the bride’s and bridesmaids’ hair attractive:

  1. A circlet or half circlet of flowers
  2. An alice band decorated with flowers. This is a suitable choice for bridesmaids, especially young ones if their favourite alice band is decorated
  3. Place individual flowers in your hair
  4. Weave flowers into the hairstyle, such as a french plait
  5. Attach flowers to a large hair comb or hair slides

When you choose flowers for your hair, consider the following points and ask your florist to advise you on your choice:

  1. Will the flowers last all day without wilting?
  2. Will they last all day without slipping out of place?
  3. Will they be comfortable to wear all day?
  4. Do the flowers need the pollen or any sharp parts removed?

Asking your florist for a selection of loose flowers to wear in your hair, will work out cheaper and be much more versatile than a floral circlet or Alice band. An extremely complicated hairstyle with pleats and curls will not need an intricate floral headdress; a few loose flowers will complement the style much better. A popular choice at the moment is for a cluster of flowers to be placed on top of the head, or for single flowers to be placed in the hair.

Headdresses that are made up of spiky flowers and foliage may catch on the delicate fabric of a veil. Suitable flowers for headdresses include: daisy, frangipani, freesia, gardenia, gypsophilia, mimosa, rosebuds, tuberose and wax flower. Once you have decided on a few types of flowers that you would like to consider, arrange a consultation with your hairdresser to discuss your ideas and how they may be implemented.

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Every New Beginning…

The saying goes like this…“Every new beginning is some beginning’s end”.

And so it is with this chapter of “Budget Dream Wedding”.

I’ll be taking the site down soon. It’s been a wonderful ride. I’ve been so blessed to be a part of so many new beginnings. I’ve been a part of your wedding days, your anniversaries and even the births of some precious babies. All virtually, of course. That’s the amazing gift of the internet. We can share so much of our lives with each other. And it’s been simply magical – being a part of your story, sharing the journey of newlywed women across the world.

Thank you for being a part of it all.

So what’s next? Well, I hope to have a new site up soon after the first of the year. No more trying to ‘do it all’. I want to focus on what has been my heart’s desire all along….encouraging newlywed women and being encouraged in return. We’re in this together!

So… no more “Budget Dream Wedding” Boutique.

No more Forum (there’s just so much cyber chatting one can do!)

No more biting off more than I can chew! I know marriage – and that is where I’ll center the new site.

Does that seem arrogant to say “I know marriage?” I don’t think so. I do! I know the highs and I know the lows. And at the core I still believe that if you don’t love yourself you can’t love another. When you do and you have a partner who does as well (loves himself) then together you can take on whatever the world has to offer – those highs and lows I referred to.  With that in mind, I will continue to use the concept of “Discovering YOU After ‘I Do‘”. I like how it sounds but I love what it implies. There’s a lot to learn as a newly married woman. A lot!

As many of you know I lost my sister in law this past summer. She took her own life. My world was shattered as she was my closest friend where I am living now. I grew up with only brothers and I always called her ‘the sister I never wanted’. It was true – I never wanted a sister while I was growing up. But then I ‘got’ her. And she was, indeed, the sister I never had…the one I thought I never wanted.

Why would I share this with you? What does this have to do with saying ‘good-bye’ to a website?

I thought I was helping her through a very difficult part of her life….divorce. The end of a 30 year marriage.  Her own biological sisters told me, at one time during the process, that there was no way she could get through this without me – that she had found a new strength in herself with me by her side.

It wasn’t enough. It was years too late. And I felt guilty.

I don’t share this with you to get sympathy. I’m moving past the sense of guilt and even the anger. I am still very sad. But I’ve had many days and nights to consider what, if anything, I have to share from this day on that would be of value to newlywed women. If I couldn’t even help my ‘sister’ – how could I have anything worthwhile to share with women I don’t even know personally? And my answer came through my husband and my own marriage. I see it in action every day and I truly believe learning and living who I am as a woman, a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter and friend is a life journey that begins with loving myself.

We’ll never know what all led to the tragic decision to end her life.  She had been involved in an accident 4 years ago where she incurred head trauma. I want, even need, to believe that was a big part of it. But I do know, because she shared intimately with me, that she was terrified at the thought of being alone. Not living on her own but living as a woman, separate and apart from the role of someone’s wife.

Do I have all the answers? Of course not.  So I hope you’ll come along on this next chapter of the journey so together we can strengthen and empower each other to live love-centered lives.

There are some fabulous specialty sites out there that can help a bride to be. Here are a few of my favorites:

Emmaline Bride   (the wedding guide for the handmade bride)

Recycled Bride (a free marketplace to recycle everything from wedding gowns to table decorations)

The Broke-ass Bride (the ultimate DIY inspiration)

Bravo Bride (buy or sell new and pre-owned wedding items)

Sharon Naylor Wedding Books (author of over 30 wedding planning books)

Beyond 4Cs (ultimate diamond ring buying guide)

Style Me Pretty (beautiful luxurious wedding inspiration)

Southern Weddings (oh darlin’…it’s just simply fabulous Southern inspiration)

Sweet Sensations (just because I love Sharon Alexander who has been a true encouragement to me by just being her sweet self).

Here’s to happily ever after!


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