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I Need a Crowbar…
Posted by Jill in Damask Weddings, Real Weddings on December 19th, 2009
To cram everything I have to do during Christmas break into my schedule!! Mom and I are fairly certain we’ll find “the dress” while I’m home for a week during Christmas. That means some major shopping. I leave in 32 minutes for the airport! I’ll be home this afternoon! Yay!
Okay, I’ll admit it, I’m not the most organized person in the world. If you’ve ever lived with me, you’re probably a. chuckling, b. rolling your eyes, c. thanking God that you don’t live with me anymore.
But I’m working on a timeline of sorts to schedule all of our “to do’s” in a logical fashion. Sorry, Mom, I hope you don’t plan on sleeping… I mean there are a lot of stores I’d still like to visit and lots of family and friends’ opinions I’d still like to hear. Not to mention visiting the florist, the centerpiece lady, scouting a good engagement pic location/taking engagement pics (OMG, more on the panic this incites soon), meeting with a videographer, 4 dress appointments (proably more), trying to get in a few good workouts. ON TOP of all of the Christmas festivities. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to cram AWHOLELOT into a VERY SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME? It seems like there should be some kind of “stay on track” scheduling program available to brides to be’s, do you know of any??
One handy wedding planning splurge that I made was this black and white damask organizer from Brides found at Michaels, I think it was around $30, which was wayyyyyyyyyyy too much to spend on it. But it was one of those things I HAD to have!! haha! Hopefully it will help me with this crazy upcoming week! 
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Paula and Jill
Posted by Jill in Real Weddings on December 14th, 2009
J and I have a favorite budget date location. It’s the dollar show, for ONE dollar you get to see a new film that is in that limbo period between real theatres and dvds. I love love love going to the dollar show. I even made up a little song about it:
I love the dollar show
It’s my favorite place to go
Four quarters gets you in
For ten more dimes you can bring a friend
Anyway, J was out of town this weekend, so I had to find something to do to distract myself from missing him (you’re either sighing or scoffing right now, depending on if YOU are a bride to be! Haha!) So I thought I’d take myself on a date to the dollar show (which is way more acceptable at a matinee). I saw Julie and Julia. Which is the story of a blogger, Julie, who decides to cook her way through Julia Child’s “Mastering the Art of French Cooking”, and blog about it. It’s basically my new favorite movie of all time. It’s a perfect blend of some of my favorite things; cooking, blogging, and Paris! I thought it was genius! I think my favorite part of the movie was when Julie (the blogger) got SO excited about finally having a comment on her blog, she clicked on it to read it and it was from her mom!! Ha! I think all of us bloggers have been there (although it’s my dad in my case!) I also loved the way Julia Child’s husband toasted her as the butter to her bread and the breath to her life. I can think of no better description of J! haha! (We’ve been known to refer to ourselves as the Buttertons in private. 
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So anyway, I got thinking about my favorite cook, Paula Deen. I’ve met her during her book tour for her children’s cookbook and I told her that when I started dating a southern boy I thought to myself “I better learn how to cook”, I also suggested that her next cookbook should be titled “How to Win a Man’s Heart”. Yes, to some degree I credit her with my engagement! Ha! I’m thinking about inviting her to the wedding! What do you think? Have you invited any celebrities to your wedding?
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Its Official…
Posted by Jill in Real Weddings on December 12th, 2009
I have the best fiance in the universe. Seriously. Yesterday was the day from H E double hockey sticks. But his sweetness smoothed it over.
I’ve been working like a horse part time at JCPenney Portrait Studio taking photos of slobbering bratty screaming kids to try to save enough money for the wedding. I was proud of myself for saving so much $$. WELLLLL I go out to my car the other day and lo and behold my tire was flat. I said to J, “there goes my Christmas bonus” and he said “Nah, it’ll just be a $10 patch job”. Of course it WASN’T just a patch job. In total my tires/wheels/alignment were so messed up that it cost me all of the money I saved while working like a horse at JCP AND my Christmas bonus from my real job. I’m heart sick.
And it was also cold. Really cold. So I was complaining to J about not having a coat (how does he put up with my complaining? Saint? Maybe.) Anyway, he said “look under the tree” and there it was, my dream coat.
In fact I blogged about it earlier. Burberry. Black. Quilted. Oh that lovely plaid. It made me cry!
No matter how unlucky my days may seem, J is always there reminding me that its the people in your life that love you and care about you that make a person lucky!!! And when I remember that, I remember that I’m very very very lucky…. A lot poorer today. But warm and lucky.
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Wedding Sacrifices
Posted by Jill in Real Weddings on November 18th, 2009
I’m blessed. My parents have graciously and generously offered to host our wedding. I realize that many girls are not so lucky.
Thanks Mom and Dad, in case I haven’t said it lately!
Of course, there are still things that J and I will need to fund on our own. Our wedding bands, our marriage license, photography, videography, rehearsal dinner, honeymoon, premarital retreat required by the Church, his tux, his daughter’s dress and travel. It’s getting to be quite the list. I work full time at the television network and part time at a portrait studio. I’m doing all I can to earn enough money to pay cash for as many things on this list as possible. I’m trying to live even more frugally than normal; I haven’t had Starbucks in MONTHS! And I FULLY avoid all shoe departments of every store I go in to. Please don’t think I’m complaining… I’m fully aware that many many girls have to pay for all of the things on my list and EVERYTHING else that goes along with a wedding too.
BUT on Saturday J and I went for a drive. We ended up in a town I’d never been to before. It was great. Small, quiet, quaint. And it had a downtown straight out of a novel, complete with soda shops and cute boutiques. It was a lovely way to spend a Saturday afternoon. But then we went in to one of 
those fore mentioned cute boutiques and my day took a significant turn for the worst (okay, that’s a grave overdramatization) as I laid my eyes on an authentic Burberry quilted jacked. I was shocked #1. to see such a high end designer haphazardly scattered amongst Koret and Rafeal’s shoulder padded sweaters and #2. to see the VERY jacket I’d been lusting over for years in Small Town Alabama.
Clearly, I’m under no financial disillusionment or I wouldn’t be writing a post for a budget bridal blog and I would have spent the $400 for the jacket years ago when I first discovered it. But today. Today was such a ridiculous temptation I could BARELY contain myself. The jacket. Authentic Burberry. In my size. Was marked down from $400 to $100! $100! For a timeless jacket I’ve wanted for forever!
But alas, I have a wedding to save for. I put the jacket back on the rack. Turned to J and said “we must leave immediately before I do something I might regret”.
What kind of sacrifices have you had to make to save $$ for the wedding of your dreams?
Photo courtesy Bloomingdales
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Flower Power!
Posted by Jill in Flowers, Real Weddings on November 11th, 2009
My mom has a meeting with a florist today (I live 500 miles away from where my wedding will be… thanks Mom for doing all the nitty gritty planning for me!!). I’ve always said that flowers weren’t a very high priority for me. I’d rather spend money elsewhere. BUT the more I look for what I want, the more it becomes a high priority. Ugh. What’s a girl to do!
My first dilemma: I don’t want to spend a fortune on my bouquet. And my favorite flowers are roses, garden roses, and peonies (all white/off white). But of course, these are some of the most expensive flowers out there. Good way to smash the budget to smithereens! I’m torn between “Ahhh, let’s just go with carnations” and “but my flowers will be in every picture”. *Sigh* I want them to make a statement… but I don’t want to have to include BYOB in the invitations. Haha!
Thankfully bewildered budget brides have great internet resources to help us out! Not only did I find great inspiration from our own Dream Weddings on a Budget (search “Flowers” under the categories tab), but according to The Knot I discovered that “ranunculus is a cost effective alternative to roses and peonies and to carry ranunculus is to tell your partner, in the Victorian language of flowers, ‘I am dazzled by your charms.’” Perfecto! And SO true, J is QUITE the charmer!! Does anyone have any other suggestions for cost effective flowers that pack a punch?
Ranunculus
Peonies
Dilemma numero dos: I have chosen ice blue as my bridesmaid color to pair with the black and white damask. What color flowers go with blue dresses??? Other than dyed blue carnations (what my mom had) or blue hydrangeas (okay, but not for the whole bouquet). I took a peak at a color wheel for some inspiration. The complementary (opposite) color of blue on the color wheel is yellow. That would be pretty, very springy. But I hesitate to introduce a WHOLE NEW color into our wedding palate.
I could go with different shades of blues and purples, but I worry that that will be too dark for a spring time wedding.
WHEN DID THIS GET SO COMPLICATED?!?!?!?!?!?
All photos courtesy the Knot
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Come to Our Wedding…. Or ELSE!
Posted by Jill in Damask Weddings, Invitations, Real Weddings on November 10th, 2009
I recognize that not everyone has the quirky off beat sense of humor I have (or THINK I have, I do have to explain a disproportionate number of my jokes to my beloved)…. BUT I was playing around on Zazzle the other day and created this….
Yes. It says “come to our wedding or we’ll kick your butt”. I thought it was hysterical. In fact it made me laugh out loud. Literally. I showed J. He laughed out loud. I showed my mom. She laughed out loud. See, it’s funny because neither J nor I would ever hurt a fly.
This pic was taken right after we got in a horrible car accident and J’s face made friends with the windshield. On a side note, PLEASE don’t text and drive. J and I were driving in the slow lane of the interstate and a car slammed into the back of us, catapulted us across three lanes of interstate traffic, we crashed into the cement median and spun around so we were facing traffic. We ended up with some bumps, bruises, cuts, and a broken nose… but we could have easily been killed.
The driver of the other car was texting. (If you still need convincing watch this video *warning, it’s graphic*).
Anyway, back to Zazzle. I’m pretty much obsessed with it. As I mentioned in a previous post, we already have our invites, but since so many of our guests are coming from out of town, there’s no way to get around sending Save the Dates. I think the most cost effective way to send STD’s is to send the post card version. And since I double as a photographer and J and I have enough pictures of ourselves to fill a municipal library… I thought it would only be fitting to have a photo on our STD’s. Here are some options… What do you think?
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Deal of the Day
Posted by Jill in Decorations, Real Weddings on November 9th, 2009
Deal of the day! Do you have a Ross Dress for Less in your area? It’s very similar to TJ Maxx or Marshalls. I was killing a lunch hour doing some wedding “browsing” and came across these TO DIE FOR candle 6 inch long rhinestone votive holders.
They caught my eye and stole my heart! I didn’t have a plan for them but I knew I had to own them! Ha ha! They are long enough that if I place them side by side on the head table they will make quite an impact! I love how big the rhinestones are and that the back portion is mirrored. I also like that I got them on sale for (drum roll please) $5.49 each! As I placed them on a shelf to get a good picture of them for the world to see, a lady came by and picked one up, I screamed “NO, THOSE ARE MINE” like some ridiculous bridezilla. She slowly backed away. And wished me well on my wedding… How did she know?
(Notice the lady’s hand in the left corner… just before I smacked it away! haha! Jk. )
Really, the fact that they caught her eye and that she liked them so well (them, not me) served as quite the confirmation that I really truly DID need to own them! As if there was any doubt. Now, my friends, help me figure out exactly what to do with them! Side by side they total 2.5 feet. Is that long enough to make an impact? Dare I venture off into unknown suburbs to try to find even MORE of them? Should I put votives / flowers / picture frames in between them? What would make them the most impactful?
Or should I scrap the head table idea all together and put them somewhere else???
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Wedding Treasure Hunt
Posted by Jill in Real Weddings on November 4th, 2009
My man is a yard sale snob. I was never much into buying other people’s “junk”, until I met him and discovered the practically unused treasures that people were almost GIVING away. Now we go yard saling (sailing?) all the time. In fact, it has become one of our favorite things to do together. He’s Southern. Very Southern. And has never met a stranger. For him yard sales help him connect with neighbors and friends… and get a bargain. I’m not nearly as outgoing and friendly, so I like going with J. That way I don’t have to say much… I can just browse for deals! And on Saturday I found some KILLER deals!!!
I found 150 slightly used wedding bubbles for $1! Yay! I haven’t really decided if we’ll be one of those “bubbly” couples… but for a dollar it was worth having the option!
I also found a pair of wedding shoes at the same yard sale. They were worn once by a MoB. They’re Kenneth Cole, with rhinestone straps. $60 originally. And, delightfully, they only have a slight kitten heel. I LOVE high high high heels. But I hate being taller than my man. And can’t imagine towering over him on our wedding day. They are a just a tad tight across my toes. But I figured they’d either stretch out, or I’d give them to MY MoB, who has more dainty feet than I! Due to J’s expert haggling I got them for $7! Much more logical than the $900 Christian Louboutin bridal shoes that I’ve been lusting over! I mean, who even sees your feet!?!?
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A-ha Moments
Posted by Jill in Damask Weddings, Invitations, Real Weddings on November 1st, 2009
I’ve had a significant number of “that’s it” aha moments during the course of our lengthy engagement… and a few important ones pre-engagement too!!
J and I are both television producers at the same television network. In fact our offices are right across the hall from each other… which I think is cool… But our co-workers probably get sick of me yelling out “J come here I have to show you these custom monograms/bridesmaid’s bouquets/centerpiece mock-ups”… who am I kidding, I’m sure he gets sick of it too, but the wonderful fiancé he is, he rarely acts disinterested!
At the very beginning of our relationship J and I were in St. Louis, my home town, for an even our television network was putting on. Since the event was in my hometown I went as an attendee, he went to work. I drove 10 hours to get there. He flew non-stop 1 hour to get there. The girl I drove with ended up getting ill and flying back, so I was stuck by myself to drive 10 hours without any company. J offered to give up his quick and easy flight to join me on the loooong drive… in a compact car! His sacrifice spoke volumes to me. That’s the official moment when I knew he was the “one”!
I had the same aha moment when J and I were shopping for rings. I put one on that I thought was way out of the budget but “knew” it was the “one”. I felt like Cinderella when I tried it on. And felt like the luckiest girl alive when he popped the question with it! I still catch myself staring at it! And I still feel like the luckiest girl alive!
Not long after J proposed I found myself in a Michael’s (let’s be honest girls, isn’t that where most newly engaged diy budget brides find themselves!? Haha). And came across this LOVELY black and white damask invitation set, by Brides. I “knew” they were our invitations. Despite the fact that I hadn’t done ANY invitation research yet, I called my mom and she bought every box in the St. Louis area, with a 50% off coupon. Cheapo! Can’t wait to find some great ways to make them a little more custom. Maybe a belly band? Or a great monogram? Who knows, I just loved them and knew they would set the tone for our dreamy delightful diy damask wedding!
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The jazillionth damask bride of the season
Posted by Jill in Damask Weddings, Real Weddings, Wedding Themes on October 31st, 2009
I’ll admit it. I have expensive tastes. It didn’t take me long after being engaged to come back down to earth. HOLY MOLY, weddings are EXPENSIVE!!! I was overwhelmed at all of the options. Do I want pin tucked custom linens and crystal candelabras?! ABSOLUTELY! Do I want to be in debt forever? Not so much.
My first step was to brain storm… what do we want our wedding to look like? Feel like? What do we want our guests to remember? What are our top priorities?
We decided that we want our wedding to be elegant, classic, and FUN! We want the food to taste good, but we’d rather spend a chunk of change on a band that can get a party started! We (I) want a show stopping dress, but not one that I’ll be paying for until I’m old and gray! Our first goal was to prioritize….
My second goal was to figure out what I liked in other girl’s weddings!
I’ve always been drawn to black and white damask (and black and white toile, but my bathroom is decorated in that… and I didn’t want my wedding to remind me of my bathroom! Haha!) So I typed “damask” into good ole` www.weddingbee.com and came up with so many beautiful options that I decided that was a GO!
So I am officially, ANOTHER damask bride! I certainly hope it’s not too “2009” to fit in to my desire for a “classic” wedding. But I guess most bride’s have to answer to their children someday “Yes, honey, I had damask table cloths, I know they are SO out of style right now . . . but at least my bridesmaids didn’t wear HATS like at your grandma’s wedding!”
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